Sounds like an oxymoron doesn’t it? It takes a while to digest this, but once you do, it feels a little better.
Sometimes you have to find the good in a bad situation. Not just for yourself, but for the one that needs it the most. Keeping up appearances is a real dilemma. Its a hard thing to grasp when you are grasping at straws to make it through the day. We all have times in our lives when we are facing a situation with a loved one that doesn’t have a good outcome. The outcome may be bad, but the remainder of the time doesn’t have to be. Making it good, takes effort, real tangible ideas, thoughts of making this a pleasant and desirable place to be. Find out what it is that will make it good for the other person. When you find this out, do your best to make it happen. Let your love shine and your heart be worn on your sleeve. Let it make you smile with appreciation at the time spent with your loved one on a not so good day. Only you can take whatever it is that is not good and make it good. Not only for you, but for all involved.
May your time be filled with good memories and laughter and most of all may your time be filled with love and happy thoughts. It does make a difference. It does make a bad situation easier for all involved.
Have any of you made a bucket list? Have you ever thought of making one but haven’t? A bucket list is comprised of a list of ten things more or less, that you would like to accomplish in your lifetime.
I have recently made my bucket list. It was fun to sit and dream about things that I would like to do in my life. So…if you’re ready, I would like to share my bucket list with you.
Travel the United States in an RV
Visit Wales, Scotland and the UK
Take a Mediterranean cruise
Move to a Great Lakes State
See the Northern Lights
Get back to a normal weight
Go to Venice
Write a book
Visit the Adler Planetarium in Chicago
Visit the Georgia Aquarium
So, what do you think? Can you make your bucket list? It doesn’t matter what it is, if you want to do it, then put it on your bucket list.
My bucket list seems fairly doable. At least I think so. The whole thing for me is that it gives me something to look forward to. It keeps that dream alive. It keeps me going. It makes me think. Best of all, it makes me SMILE.
The smallest things in life are most often the ones that make us the happiest. Think about it, smelling fresh coffee brewing, the sound of laughter, walking through fall leaves, the smell of newly cut grass.
What are some of the little things that make you happy?
Sprinkle these things liberally throughout your day. I leave myself little sticky notes everywhere to remind me of the things that make me happy.When I look at them I automatically smile. Smiling brings out the best in me. It energizes me. It gives me a feeling of warmth. Like a big hug. Comfort. Good thoughts.
Can you imagine how amazing your day will be, can be, when you start thinking of all the little things in your life that make you happy? Instead of focusing on the negative things or things that have gone wrong, focus on the things that have gone right. I bet you can find something that will make you smile.
Feeling down? Take a deep breath and think of something that makes you happy. Now, close your eyes and take yourself somewhere that you love to go to. Stay there for a while. Your dishes can wait, the clothes will keep themselves in the dryer, dinner will hold, the grass won’t grow that much in a minute or two, the car can stay dirty for a while longer. I promise you that these chores will still be there. Take care of you. Take some time to give yourself a much needed break. Just a few minutes a day can make the difference between keeping yourself going or breaking down.
When you get the chance, write down the things that make you truly happy. It doesn’t matter how big or small these things are, if they make you happy, write it down. Keep this list someplace where you can see it. Do you have any photos of your happy place? Put them on the refrigerator so you can look at them and go there in your thoughts.
One more thing, SMILE. It really does make you feel better. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile. Besides, you look much better when you smile.
When I first started this blog, I wasn’t sure where I wanted it to go. I finally decided that there was enough negativity in this world so I wanted my blog to be something positive.
I realize that no one can be a bundle of Joy all the time, but in essence, you do choose what your outlook is. Every day when you wake up, you decide whether to be happy or miserable.
When you make your choice, it becomes easier to maintain that outlook. Even when someone pisses you off or says something to you that hurts, the way you react to that changes how you feel for the rest of the day.
You can still be upset about the situation, but choosing to react in a different manner than you usually do can be a game changer.
Try it some time. It really does work. It might even take a few tries, in fact I know it will. You’ll be amazed at how good you feel when you can keep that smile on your face. Let alone how surprised the offending party will be when they don’t get a rise out of you.
Smile. It makes a big difference to not only you, but to others too. A smile is contagious!